Help! Can I Place My Child for Adoption?

There are times we all think we need a serious break from our children. Then there are situations where a parent knows that the current living situation is not healthy for their child and that they honestly cannot cope with raising their child or children. There are many, many reasons for this, and most people in this position feel they are all alone. A parent may be ashamed to admit what they are going through to friends or family, or they may have no one to share with.

This sad situation is more common than most people think, and if you are in this position, the most important thing to know is that there is help, there are solutions. Many times, these stories end up with social services involved and children going into the foster care system. This is not ideal, and if there is more than one child, the siblings are often separated, causing more trauma. This is the time for you to put your pain and troubles aside for the moment and figure out what the best option for your child is. This takes courage, strength, and love for your child.

Your first step is to determine if the situation you are in is a bump in the road and you need some temporary help or if this is going to be a long-term problem and your child or children need to be placed with another family. If your children are to be placed with another family, you have two choices, foster care or adoption.

In a foster care situation, you will not have any say on where your child or children are placed and if there is more than one child if they can stay together. There is also the chance that they will be moved from foster home to foster home or be placed in a group home.

Adoption is an option that is not often thought of. Modern adoption allows you to choose the parents for your child or children. You can choose parents that will adopt all of your children, so you will know they will always be together. You will know these parents have completed a home study that includes in-depth background and financial checks and extensive interviews by social workers. Also, if you want to maintain some contact, you and the adoptive family can create a Post Adoption Contact Agreement with the help of a counselor. You can receive updates, pictures, share information on social media, and even have visits in some cases.

All you need to do is contact a caring and non-judgmental adoption coordinator who will walk you through all the steps. The process is completely confidential. Whether you have decided this is the right course of action for you or you are just looking for some information, you can be sure that your information will not be shared.

In addition, you, your child, and the adoptive parents will have access to a counselor that will create a transition plan. She will look at all the circumstances and suggest the best way for the child to move from your care to the adoptive parents. The health and well-being of your child will be the priority for everyone.

Deciding to place your child for adoption is a very brave decision. Take advantage of the knowledge and experience our adoption coordinators have. They will not ever pressure you to continue down the adoption path if you are not sure and will help you find the resources you need to make the right choice for you and your child. Call or text today.